Perfectionism and OCD: When Optimization Starts Running the Show
TL;DR:
Perfectionism in OCD often shows up as “optimization” — constant overthinking, checking, and trying to do things the right way. Instead of leading to clarity, it creates loops that fuel doubt and avoidance. Therapy (especially ERP) focuses less on finding the perfect answer and more on learning to tolerate uncertainty and move forward without needing certainty first.
Relationship OCD vs Anxious Attachment: How to Tell the Difference
TL:DR:
Relationship OCD (ROCD) involves intrusive doubts about the relationship itself—such as questioning whether you truly love your partner or whether the relationship is “right.” Anxious attachment, on the other hand, typically involves fear of abandonment and worry about losing the relationship. While the two can feel similar, ROCD is driven by obsessive thoughts and compulsive attempts to gain certainty.
Wondering if you have relationship OCD or an anxious attachment style? Learn the key differences between ROCD and relationship anxiety, common signs, and when to seek help from an OCD specialist.